Three Little Words to Help You Keep Tidy
- First, there are the Naturally Neat.
- And then there are the Not Naturally Neat.
While the Naturally Neat person may live with a lot of clutter (that is, unused and unloved items that do not contribute to the quality of his life), that clutter is usually organized. Baskets, bins, shoe bags, spice racks, and elaborate closet systems are essential to this person's home. There may be a ton of extraneous stuff, but you better believe it has a place to be.
When the Naturally Neat person decides to become more minimalist, he may struggle to decide what to keep and what to remove because all of his stuff is "good" and he doesn't want to "waste" it. However, once he achieves an uncluttered home, he's happy to continue his long-time cleaning routines and other habits to keep his space tidy.
The Not Naturally Neat person can still become minimalist.
The Not Naturally Neat person isn't an organizer. Her things may be very randomly distributed, and she may spend a lot of time looking for what she needs among piles of things she doesn't. Baskets, bins, and silverware organizers might exist in her home, but they are usually untidy, and often contain miscellaneous items that migrated there from somewhere else.
When the Not Naturally Neat person decides to become more minimalist, she's usually highly motivated, because her house frustrates her every day. But she may find it hard to declutter because her belongings are so scattered – it's hard to tell just how many clothes, dishes, books, toys or other items there really are. Once she succeeds in paring down her possessions, routines such as "everything in its place" and "clean as you go" may be new and need a lot of practice.
Here's a typical situation.
live with someone who is Not Naturally Neat? That changes the equation a bit, so the Three Little Words (I promise we'll get to them!) might be helpful there as well.
When something is out of place – a pen left on the coffee table, a loaf of bread and the peanut butter left on the counter, or someone's gym shoes on the living room floor – the Naturally Neat person sees it immediately. He can't help himself. His radar is that sensitive. He hurries to pick it up and put it away without even thinking about it. He doesn't understand how his Not Naturally Neat roommate is able to walk right on by. Can't she see it?
The answer is yes – sort of.
Yes, she sees the offending item. But it's not at the forefront of her mind. Maybe she's thinking about another task she needs to do. Maybe she's trying to remember the words of the song that's stuck in her head. She may (unconsciously) tell herself, "I'll get that later." She might even pass the item several times, and each time think, "Later." She will probably eventually take care of it – that is, if her Naturally Neat roommate doesn't get to it first. (He most likely will.)
If you're struggling to minimize your home and keep it clutter-free, you may laugh at the idea that a pen or a jar of peanut butter or a pair of shoes really makes that much difference. And the truth is, if it was only the one thing, it wouldn't make much difference.
(I know that's not what you want to hear, dear Naturally Neat person, but it's the truth, so keep calm.)
But it doesn't stop at one thing.
The problem is that pervasive thought, "Later," because "Later" never comes.
Now's the time for the Three Little Words, and you must say them to yourself as cheerfully as possible.
"Do it now."
My dad used to say, "If it only takes a minute, do it now." I hated that. It's only a Kleenex, or a pen, or a towel, or my keys, or turning off the lights, or wiping up crumbs on the counter, or removing that toothpaste splatter from the bathroom mirror! What's the big deal?
But it is a big deal. It does make a difference. Many, many tasks fall into that one minute category, and they really aren't onerous at all. But if I procrastinate or neglect them, they multiply, and pretty soon I'm surrounded by dirt and piles and clutter.
"Do it now." Take a moment and do it. Pick it up, throw it away, put it away, wipe it up. When you do it over and over again, the mess, the frustration, and the strife will disappear. It's like magic.
Do it now. It will change your life.
NOTE: Gender designations in this post are not intended to be sexist. "He" and "she" are used for ease of expression.
Updated May 2023