Feeling Down? Try Cleaning Up.

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I know this won't work for everyone, but it does for a lot of people.  If you're feeling sad, worried, or overwhelmed, instead of trying to soothe yourself with something that might wind up making you feel worse (such as an extra glass or two of wine, a sweet treat, a TV or gaming binge, or an expensive shopping trip), try doing something that might actually make you feel better.


After all, the antidote for feeling out of control isn't to abandon control.  Feeling upset is a reason to seek order and purpose, not to abandon them.


fresh flowers on a windowsill - photo by Chris Linnett on Unsplash



My prescription


A friend was angry with her boss, so she spent the afternoon cleaning out her office.  Sorting, tossing, shredding, making space, and finally organizing helped her calm down.  Plus, she loved her tidied, pretty work area so much that she proudly posted a couple of pictures on social media.


The sense of satisfaction with a job well done will improve your mood, too, and increase your sense of competence and efficiency.


This isn't the time for strenuous labor.  Start in one small area, such as a drawer, cupboard, or shelf.  Choose a particular type of clutter that's been bugging you, such as clothes, toys, pets, hobbies, the laundry room, the top of the fridge....  Dealing with this pet peeve will bring the most satisfaction and relief.


Find a rhythm in sorting out trash, duplicates, and things you don't need, use, or love.  Dust or otherwise clean the area.  Put what remains in their proper places, and enjoy seeing order emerge from chaos.


It can help, too, to put on some soothing music while you work.  Bending, stretching, and breathing deeply will lower your heart rate, boost your energy, and reduce stress.


The next time you feel angry, anxious, or unhappy, don't try to pamper yourself out of a slump or let yourself replay what's bothering you over and over in your mind.  Give decluttering a try.  You might feel a lot better.


Also, if someone else is driving you crazy with their sudden desire to clear clutter, consider that they might be trying to ease their own irritation, sorrow, or distress.




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