Love Every Day
Valentine's Day is the third largest shopping occasion of the year. This amounts to nearly $20 billion in spending for the holiday, including gifts for pets, which account for almost $700 million. Valentine's Day is too huge for marketers to ignore -- it's like Black Friday for florists, chocolatiers, and jewelers.
Valentine's Day is meant to be a time to connect with family and friends in a way that shows love and commitment. Never mind that we should really be trying to show our loved ones that they are loved every day of the year. Our culture has made Valentine's Day the heavy hitter, the one day we dare not fail to impress.
I am not saying we shouldn't give gifts to our loved ones. A thoughtfully chosen gift is one way to show you care about someone. But it's only one possible way to express love. If we subscribe to the theory that there are five Love Languages, then we might consider that a focus on gift-giving causes us to undervalue the other four. In fact, maybe we shop more and amass too much stuff because we're trying (unsuccessfully) to fill that gap.
Actions speak louder than words, and they speak louder than gifts, too.
1. Acts of service
This involves doing chores for another, noticing a need and meeting it without being asked, dropping a grudge and making the first move toward resolving a dispute, etc.
2. Words of affirmation
This includes sincere compliments, saying "I love you" and "Thank you," giving encouragement, speaking positively instead of complaining, etc.
3. Quality time
This means focused and uninterrupted attention, listening without letting your mind wander to something else or plan out what you want to say, shared activities, etc. Quality time generally requires you to ignore your phone.
4. Physical touch
Naturally this includes hugs, kisses, hand holding, pats, fist bumps, neck rubs, and more!
What a beautiful message! I'm not a fan of this "holiday". Hopefully your message will make it more of a true connection vs someone just going through the motions because it says to on the calendar.ReplyDelete
Thank you for your kind words! "...just going through the motions because it says to on the calendar..." is something I want to avoid. Yet there's a lot of pressure to not just ignore this "holiday." I compromised by writing love notes to my husband, parents-in-law, and kids, and sending my grandson a chocolate heart (one will be special for him, because he doesn't get many sweets) and some stickers of trucks, tractors, bulldozers (he's 3). Just to let them know I'm thinking of them! I treated my husband to a special breakfast, too.Delete
I totally agree. Showing how we care: actions speak louder than words. In New Zealand, Valentines Day is more for couples, and it's not as important as other celebrations. However, I do like your 'little touches' for your loved ones on Valentines DayReplyDelete
Thank you, ratnamurti. Actions speak louder than words, and they often speak louder than gifts, too!Delete