3 Questions to Help You Recover Your Minimalist Motivation
I've been practicing minimalism for nearly 30 years, but sometimes I get off track. In the busyness of everyday life, in the middle of our consumerist culture, it's possible to get complacent and careless. So how do we rediscover the conviction and enthusiasm we felt when we first started on the minimalist path?
The following questions have helped me stop and take a breath to consider what really matters to me, and remove the things that don't.
3 back-to-basics questions
1. What would I miss?
Blogger and podcaster Emily McDermott calls this question "the disaster exercise."
Imagine you're on vacation. You have your purse, cell phone, wedding ring, medications, a useful capsule wardrobe, and a couple of personal items. Your phone rings, and it's your neighbor telling you your house has burned down.
You have ten seconds to list the three most important things you would miss. Go.
Look at your list. What matters to you? Are you surprised by the answers? Consider all you wouldn't miss. This exercise should enlighten you.
And now it's time for some action. What are you doing to preserve those important items in case something happens to them? Do you need to scan physical photos? Make a video of yourself holding (or next to) an important item as you tell about the memories and events connected with it? A 32G USB flash drive* doesn't cost much, holds a ton of data, is easy to update and share, and is super-portable.
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One more thing to think about: We know that clutter isn't neutral. It's implicated in problems of stress, anxiety, overwhelm, waste, debt, obesity, depression, and more. Does answering this question make it easier for you to let go of items that didn't make the list?
2. How would I feel if this item simply blew up or disappeared?
This question comes from The Minimalists, and it's perfect for items you've inherited or been given that aren't meaningful to you. If your answer is "I'm so relieved!" not only does that indicate that you might as well declutter the thing today, but it also helps you understand why you've hung on for so long.
- You feel guilty. It belonged to dear Aunt Faye, or your son bought it for you, or it's an old wedding favor. News flash: You've carried the guilt of not liking or using it for long enough.
- You feel responsible. It cost a lot, so you're obligated to get your money's-worth. Alas, it sits at the back of a closet, unused. Truth: You've carried the responsibility to make good on your purchase for long enough.
- You feel fear. "Maybe I'll need it someday" or "Grandpa wouldn't like it if I didn't take care of his favorite fishing tackle." It hasn't been useful so far, and Grandpa wouldn't want you to be burdened by his old stuff. (And if he would, you have even less reason to honor him.) Remember: You've carried the fear of being in need or not making everyone happy for long enough.
Letting go doesn't erase the memories inside you. It doesn't erase the love displayed by the original gift experience. Letting go simply allows you to move forward into a hopeful future.
3. If I were to pass away today, what would my loved ones say at my funeral?
When we say that our spouse and kids are the most important things in our lives, is that what our everyday actions are showing? What will your kids remember about you?
- "Mom always said those three little words... 'Just a minute.'"
- "Mom was always busy... on her phone."
- "When we asked Mom how she was doing, her answer was usually... a complaint."
We say our faith matters. Our health. Our purpose. But is this reflected in what we do every day? Are we so busy with our stuff and our shopping, our committees and our side hustle and the news, that we can't be the person we really want to be?
And will our loved ones associate us most with our hobbies and collections, or with the ways we loved and listened and taught them? I sure don't want my books or my English blue and white ironstone to be the main things people associate with me.
Now is the time to make decisions that will relieve our loved ones from having to deal with the burden of our stuff. Keep what you use and enjoy, but start downsizing the rest.
Question the status quo.
Practicing minimalism means that we have to buck the trends and thoughtfully question what we buy, keep, and do. Imagine what purpose you might find for your life if you removed everything that's holding you back! That alone may help you rediscover your motivation on the the minimalist path.
Minimalism A to Z: Strategies for a Simpler, Joyful Life (part of my Minimalist Basics series) contains practical ideas and thoughtful questions to help you get there. Much more than tidying up, minimalism helps you find the life you want... with less to distract you from it.